We’ve seen some folks expressing that they expected a toy to feel a certain way based on the firmness description and not feeling that firmness of the toy ordered. This is a little guide to hopefully help customers make an informed decision on what firmness will work best for what they’re looking for.
Super Soft Silicone
Our softest silicone can be very very soft and squishy! We very rarely use this firmness of silicone because it can be easy to damage. It is incredibly difficult to use thin, small toys in this firmness because it's just so dang squishy. We don't even make knotted toys in this firmness because there's really not much of a point. This firmness is reserved for larger sizes. Larger toys made in this firmness can usually stand on their own (but this isn't always the case), and are incredibly squishy. The surface of these toys also feel a little more tacky than firmer silicones.
To sum up: Super soft is best for big toys and is rarely used in the shop for smaller toys. It's best for people who want a LOT of squish and wobble.
This is our softest commonly used silicone and can be very soft! The smaller a toy, the softer it feels. Slim toys like our Aelit and Deelit are so thin that they feel incredibly squishy in this firmness. Thin toys in soft can be difficult to insert for vaginal use and very difficult for anal use. Thin soft toys tend to fold over or be a bit wiggly when trying to insert them. However, if you’re a person looking for a very gentle experience, a small soft toy can be just the right thing! Small toys with more blunt heads can be easy to insert and provide a fun, squishy experience.
It should be noted that knotted toys in soft will almost always flop over at the stem under the knot because soft silicone cannot hold up the weight of a thick shaft and knot.
Where soft silicone really shines is in bigger toys! Medium and large toys in soft firmness can be inserted easily and provide more squish when thrusting. Toys that are thick will feel more like medium firmness as they get larger and thicker. Large and Noble sized toys are sometimes easier for vaginal use in soft silicone as opposed to medium silicone. Our VERY big toys, like our Royal Batou, are only made in soft silicone, but at that size they almost always feel more like medium firmness would feel in a smaller toy.
To sum up: Soft is best for big toys or for people wanting a gentle but very wobbly and squishy experience.
Medium is our most popular firmness option. It can feel very sturdy, but still have a nice level of give to it. Small and slim toys work well with medium silicone. These sizes in medium firmness will feel similar to a medium or large toy in soft firmness. Smaller toys in medium are firm enough that they won’t wiggle or squish too much when trying to insert them either vaginally or analy, which is why I personally recommend this firmness for those size toys.
Toys with knots stand up better in medium firmness, but if the knot is large and the stem under it is thin (as with Tyv), even medium firmness toys can lean or flop over.
As toys get bigger, medium firmness gets firmer! If you like a toy that doesn’t lose its shape when inserted, medium is a good firmness for you. Vaginal toy users may find medium firmness a bit too much when used to make large and noble sized toys since there is less give in these sizes. Anal users looking for a sturdy toy that is easy to insert will likely prefer medium firmness, even in larger toys. When made in medium firmness silicone, our large and noble sized toys can feel like they were made with firmer silicone since they have a lot thicker diameters to them.
To sum up: Medium is a good firmness for small, medium, and large sized toys if you want less squish and wiggle and more keeping its shape. But in very thick toys it can feel quite firm.
We do not pour firm toys very often in our workshop. We work in Texas and the heat (even in a climate controlled environment it can still be present) causes firm silicone to set faster than we like. Firm is much more rigid than our medium silicone, but that makes it even better for slim and small toys. It won’t flop or bend easily, which can help make toy insertion easier. But on the other hand, it has less give so it can feel a bit pokey in certain toy shapes. We tend to pour firm mostly in smaller toys, though occasionally we’ll make medium and large size toys in firm. We will never make toys bigger than large size in firm because it can be hard on our molds. As with medium firmness, the bigger the toy the firmer it will feel. Large toys in firm silicone have no give to them, so they can be ideal for anal use and more difficult for vaginal users.
Toys with knots will stand just fine in firm silicone.
To sum up: Firm is best used on smaller or medium sized toys. It can be too unyielding to be enjoyed in larger sizes, so choose carefully.